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There are dating rules for men every red-blooded male ought to live by. Not only will these dating rules for men ensure your lady friend has an enjoyable evening, but they will also save you the embarrassment of committing dating faux pas later on. So before you thrust yourself head-on into the exciting and unpredictable world of dating, read on.

Dress to kill. Okay, maybe not quite, but do dress to impress. Throw on something decent and suitable for the occasion. A tux on a first date seems hardly appropriate, while too rugged a look may be off-putting. Play it safe and go neutral. Smart casual is a good choice. Then work your way from there should the two of you decide to keep dating and are more comfortable with each others personal tastes.

Be hygienic. Sort out your tangled hair and get a decent haircut if time allows it. Go to good quality shops for decent cologne and a grooming kit. It can be time-consuming; but men are always criticized if they smell bad, so try to get into a regular shower routine so you can smell wonderful afterwards. A woman appreciates that.

Strive to improve at work as well. A man with ambition is appealing to women. Try to get some direction in your life. Get yourself on track with career opportunities. Women will question you about prospects at your work so you cannot pretend it is not important.

Try to be more mature. Getting your brain well fed is a plus. Humor is appreciated, but a woman prefers maturity. Do not let your love for sports be more of a priority than your lady. Millions of women love sports, but ramming your love for it down her throat is not advisable. Many women are not interested about current gaming consoles, they may be more interested in traveling and how you think about the outside world.

Limit yourself if you drink too much booze. Being a drunken party-boy will never leave a positive impression with your date. If you happen to be a smoker, reduce the times you smoke; or better yet, quit smoking altogether.

Do not be aggressive on the first date. This is a horrible way to think. Being patient will lead you to the girl of your dreams. Learn to wait and try to find other ways where you can make a connection with your date. This is probably the most important dating rule for men.

A woman loves a man with brains. Having basic manners, chivalry and courtesy attracts women. They love to be treated with respect. Avoid bad language, laziness and rudeness. Know how to be a gentleman who knows how to act properly with manners. Holding a door open for her is simple, yet women know it takes effort on your part. Be sensitive. Showing her a lot of respect is a great step forward.

Listen more; talk less. If it seems like you are ignoring her, her ego might get hurt. Try to listen to her when she speaks, women appreciate it if they know you are paying attention.

Heres a unique dating rule for men: learn how to dance. Many women love to dance, so even if you have no dancing talent, at least give your best effort. Think of dancing as a romantic and sexy activity. It does not matter if you dance badly - at least she is dancing with you rather than with someone else.

Learn these dating rules for men by heart and youll win hers before the night is over.

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It is highly publicized that most smokers are slimmer and gain weight less quickly than non-smokers. This is due to nicotine's appetite suppressant effect. But it's when you stop smoking that weight gain becomes a big issue.

And most doctors and 'experts' will tell you that it is ok to put on a few pounds when you quit smoking, because the health effects are nowhere near as bad as those associated with smoking.

But that doesn't help you, does it! Because, to many of us our self-image is extremely important. And only a few extra pounds can seem like the end of the world!

The average smoker who quits will put on 6-12 pounds. BUT, and this is a very big but, most people don't know the REAL reasons why you as a smoker can gain weight when you quit smoking.

Most people think that they will put weight on because without nicotine, their appetite returns to 'normal' - normal being the level it was at before they started smoking. So they conclude that it is down to them eating more, and then their analysis of the situation stops there.

So YES smokers gain weight when they quit smoking because they eat more.

But if you stop for five minutes and think about WHY you eat more, you can put several pieces of information together to ensure that you actually PREVENT weight gain rather than having to 'deal with it' or 'accept it' like you are told by doctors and experts.

Here are the main reasons why you eat more and therefore gain weight when you stop smoking:

1. Your appetite increases as nicotine leaves your body

2. You may be used to finishing a meal with a cigarette - when there is no cigarette there is no cue or signal that the meal is over so you keep eating - after every meal every day for weeks

3. Without your usual cigarette you can begin to get fidgety, food is an easy way to keep busy and replaces the desire for food

4. Eating has long been know as a comforter. Through a chemical reaction, eating releases dopamine (the bodys natural pleasure drug) into the brain. So many people eat to comfort themselves. We eat to feel better when we are depressed, when we are bored, after a break up with a partner, because we lack self-esteem and to cover up or beat many other forms of discomfort.

5. You may decide to go on a diet when you quit smoking - to prevent that 'inevitable' weight gain. But what you may not realize is that by going on a diet you are hurting yoursel.

This is because

a.) By 'Giving Up Smoking' you are already depriving yourself of a pleasure or crutch

And when this is combined with

b.) A diet - or food deprivation (because that is all a diet is - you can't eat your favourite foods)

You actually feel worse! Not only have you had to stop smoking but now you are depressed because you are giving up your favourite foods too! The result is that you either gorge yourself on food or you start smoking again.

6. Snacking replaces the habitual cigarette every hour or so and keeps the hands busy

7. Once you've quit you enjoy food more due to the improved senses of taste and smell

8. Eating helps ease withdrawal symptoms - the irony here is that you suffer withdrawal symptoms because your body is crying out for food - not because it is crying out for nicotine! By eating you are helping to ease withdrawal symptoms but you are eating in excess which brings the added problem of weight gain.

There is a simple solution to this 'massive problem' that prevents millions of smokers worldwide:

Give your body the foods that it needs but in more concentrated doses and find ways to enjoy life that do not involve food.

So, firstly to prevent weight gain when you stop smoking you should stock up on natural fruit juices. Not cordials, diluted juices or from concentrate. Natural fruit juices provide the sugars (food) that your body has been missing out on since you started smoking. When your appetite increases, the juices provide you with concentrated forms of food and vitamins and minerals that your body needs.

Juices such as fresh orange juice and grapefruit juice and cranberry juice are especially good for you when you quit smoking because they contain Vitamin C.

Vitamin C helps the body's extraction process when it removes nicotine from your body - a major cause in withdrawal symptoms.

So by drinking plenty of fruit juice and by also taking vitamin and mineral supplements, you are giving your body all the natural foods that it needs but without eating large amounts of food and therefore gaining weight!

Secondly, it is highly important for many reasons that you continue to enjoy your life after you quit smoking, and I personally believe that it is important that you enjoy your life MORE as a non-smoker than you did as a smoker! What's the point in giving up something you enjoy?

Most people strive for and go to work so that they can achieve a more enjoyable life. So why not take the same approach when you quit smoking?

By finding a new source of pleasure you can ensure that you are not relying on food to comfort and help you though a tough situation and you are ensuring that you are keeping busy, which helps to keep your mind off smoking and eating!

Gaining weight is NOT an inevitable part of stopping smoking. By analysing your eating behaviour and taking a few simple steps you can actually PREVENT weight gain and to an extent withdrawal symptoms.

Don't let your fear of weight gain prevent you from stopping smoking.

Daniel Fargher
Quit Smoking Specialist
Stop Smoking For Good

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In short the answer to the question: "Is there a best way to quit smoking" is yes. There is a best way to quit smoking for everyone but the method that may work for you may not work for others. What you need to do is find out which way is best for you.

There are several methods you can employ to quit smoking. The main ones are behavioural therapy, hypnosis, drugs, nicotine replacement therapy, will power and 'alternative' methods. I will give a brief description of each approach along with its pros and cons.

Is cognitive behavioural therapy the best way top quit smoking?
Cognitive behavioural therapy is one of the most successful methods to help smokers quit with success rates well above 50%. This is not the same as the standard literature you find all over the place. It is not the 'set a quit date', 'write out a quit plan', 'stay in and avoid alcohol' etc. etc. That doesn't work.

Cognitive behavioural therapy breaks smoking down into twenty or so component parts and changes the way you think about smoking, component by component. The end result is that all the reasons you think you smoke for are destroyed and you lose the will to smoke.

It is not a magic bullet. It is just one particularly effective approach to quitting smoking that uses no drugs whatsoever and leaves smokers feeling liberated the moment they quit smoking, rather than being fraught with anxiety. It is cheap when compared to other systems (less than $50) and is normally sold with a no quibble money back guarantee.

Is hypnosis the best way to quit smoking?
Studies suggest that hypnosis is successful to the tune of 30% of smokers in single sessions. Using multiple sessions, success rates of 60% plus have been reported. There is some evidence that women struggle to quit as readily as men using hypnosis.

It works by changing a person's mental attitude toward smoking using powerful visualisation techniques. Hypnosis is similar to neuro-linguistic programming or NLP. Both use similar relaxation and meditation techniques to overcome cravings and nicotine withdrawal symptoms. It is far from suitable for everyone but it is non-chemical and there are no drugs to use.

Hypnosis products can be bought over the internet for around $50 but one to one sessions with hypnotherapists can be considerably more expensive, to the tune of several hundred dollars.

Are drug therapies the best way to quit smoking?
The pharmaceutical industry seems to think so! Zyban is found to work in about 16% of smokers and Chantix has been found to be about 22% effective. It is not 44% effective as claimed by Pfizer, its manufacturer.

Drug therapies are almost always used alongside counselling to help smokers achieve their aims of becoming non-smokers. Drug therapies can be provided by health authorities or may be included within medical insurance. They generally cost in excess of $300 to complete the courses if bought privately.

The downside to drug therapies aside from cost is that you may suffer from side effects which can be serious enough to stop you using the drug.

Another downside is that you do not get a money back guarantee with them, unlike my own book (which uses cognitive behavioural therapy) and most hypnosis products available on the internet.

Is nicotine replacement therapy (NRT) the best way to quit smoking?
Studies show that NRT can increase you chances of quitting smoking when compared to people trying to quit cold turkey taking it from around 5% to around 10%. It comes in the form of 'transdermal' patches, which deliver nicotine through the skin into the bloodstream. It also comes as gum or pills (lozenges and microtabs) or plastic cigarettes or nasal sprays.

Nicotine replacement therapies work on the assumption that smoking consists of nicotine 'addiction' and the 'habit' of smoking. Smokers are expected to overcome the 'habit' whilst still getting their nicotine hit from the NRT product and then they are expected to reduce their nicotine intake until they are free from cigarettes and nicotine all together.

The downside of NRT is its expense in relation to the success rate it achieves. It is just as expensive as smoking and can leave people still needing the nicotine in the form of gum or lozenges for many months or even years after quitting smoking. NRT is often used in conjunction with Zyban to enhance both NRT and Zyban effectiveness. This makes it twice as expensive of course!

Is willpower the best way to quit smoking?
Will power has a very low success rate and smokers generally need to make several attempts over several years before they successfully quit smoking. The benefits of the willpower method are that the long terms success rate is very high. Chantix, Zyban and NRT approaches to quitting smoking can be more effective in the short term, but in the longer term, willpower quitters stay off the smokes for good.

The financial benefit of this method is very good of course because it doesn't cost a penny! This is however a false economy because it takes so long to successfully quit, there are a lot of packs of cigarettes bought between attempts and the final, and successful quit.

Are alternative methods the best way to quit smoking?
Alternative methods include herbal remedies, acupuncture and laser treatments amongst many others. Anecdotally, these methods have been found to be successful but the scientific evidence is not available. TV programs showing how 'successful' each of these treatments can be rely on interviewing one or two individuals - hence the anecdotal support.

These methods are frequently expensive and rarely come with a money back guarantee. They are virtually all supported by counselling in the form of book, audio tapes or one to one sessions.

So what is the best way to quit smoking?
My advice is to start by accepting there is going to be a cost to quitting smoking. There is going to be a higher cost to continue smoking, not only in terms of cash, but most significantly in terms of health.

If you want to quit smoking be prepared to accept that you may need to try several methods before you find your very own best way to quit smoking. The one that works for you will not be 50% or 30% or 22% effective - the one that works for you will be 100% effective and that is what really matters.

Start by considering products that come with money back guarantees so you can try it and if you fail, you can get your money back. Then move onto the next system until you come to those solutions that do not have money back guarantees.

As ever, my advice to any smoker trying to quit is to never stop trying to quit. Fall down seven times, get up eight!

Why do people try to quit smoking before they know how to quit smoking? Pete Howells is the author of the EasyQuit System available only online at http://easyquitsystem.com He also blogs, post articles and videos at http://easyquitsystem.com/blog and at http://quit-smoking-hypnosis-blog.blogspot.com